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Darcy L Hansen's avatar

Thank you for sharing in this space.

My dad died when I was young. Parents divorced before that happened. My mom remarried. My step dad was and is emotionally unavailable. He and I had a falling out recently. It’s pushed a number of my childhood wounds, and I’m back in counseling to figure out what’s underneath that which I thought I’d released and healed from years ago.

Practically, what does it look like to “consent to the constraints of our own story”? What facilitates realization and also relinquishment? I’ll be pondering your words as I move through yet another season of navigating deep wounds of abandonment and emotional neglect from my childhood.

Thanks for doing the work and for sharing glimpses of your journey with us.

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Jenny Page's avatar

Really good . . . Reminds me of Leanne Payne’s exhortation/teaching to ‘forgive the circumstances of our lives’. Her three keys to inner healing, once recognition of our sin and repentance has been made, are 1 To give forgiveness; 2 To receive forgiveness; 3 To accept oneself, crossing the line from immaturity to maturity in so doing.

Her autobiography Heaven’s Calling: a memoir of one soul’s steep ascent is beautiful - she came from considerable lack in many ways, but went on to help thousands find healing through union with Christ.

I love the saying by Gregory of Nyssa quoted in her book. ‘For the one who runs towards the Lord, there is no lack of space. The one who ascends never stops, going from beginning to beginning, by beginnings that never cease.’

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